It wasn’t anything I did. At least nothing I could pin point.
The only thing that changed for me was my attitude.
It happened some time ago. I was reading a marriage article when one sentence stood out to me more than the others. I don’t even remember exactly what it was that I read, but I do remember that the love this woman had for her husband was undeniable. He was the love of her life, and it was evident.
I got to wondering, Does Michael know that I love him even half that much? Am I affirming him as often as I should be?
He’s captured my heart. He’s got a strong hold on this girl , but does he know that?
My passion for him was kindled like a fan to an open flame, and I started looking at him a bit differently. I didn’t say anything, I was just thinking about it, really. I was noticing things like how attractive he was, how great he was with the kids, and how much he was making me laugh.
Less than a week later, the two of us were sitting on the edge of our bed talking about nothing and everything all at the same time.
“Thank you,” he said.
And of course, I was puzzled.
“You’ve been really great this past week,” he continued, “I really appreciate it.”
I was completely taken by surprise. Like I said, I didn’t do anything differently. The only change was within me.
And so I’ve come to realize this powerful truth is at work in my life, “A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things.” – Matthew 12:35
I’m reminded of a friend of mine–a professional singer–who once told me that when you’re standing on a stage you have to believe in what you’re doing, because if you don’t the audience will sense it, and you will fail.
Passion stems from the heart. When you’re passionate about something it’s obvious to everyone around you–there’s no mistaking it. Therefore it’s important that we encourage each other to seek God with everything that we’ve got, and then to glorify Him by reflecting that love in our marriage.
I also came to realize a second powerful truth, which is that encouragement is an incredible force. Our words can make a difference to someone who is searching and and hungry for truth. Even a small word of encouragement can go a long way.
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. – Proverbs 27:17
I’m often looking for quotes on the internet, or little ways that I can find to inspire you. But you know what I’m finding instead? A whole lot of junk. There’s this dark cloud hanging over the topic of marriage under which men are either typified as being a barbaic buffoon, or women are shopping maniacs. Neither parties are happy, and both are miserable fools.
Sometimes you have to dig through a whole lot of dirt to find a diamond. But trust me, it’s there. Marriage is an incomparable union designed by the hands of an almighty God. There’s nothing more beautiful on this earth than walking through life with your best-friend by your side, unless it’s making a family with that best friend which is one blessing on top of another.
Pulling out 10 of my favourite marriage quotes (some I’ve written myself), I hope to encourage you in the same way that I’ve been encouraged. Enjoy!
- “Don’t compare your love story to those you watch in movies. They’re written by scriptwriters, yours is written by God.” – Unknown
- “My husband is one of my greatest blessings from God. His love is a gift that I open every day.” – Darlene Schacht
- “The difference between an ordinary marriage and an extraordinary marriage is in giving just a little ‘extra’ every day, as often as possible, for as long as we both shall live.” – Fawn Weaver
- “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” – Mignon McLaughlin
- “Love is all of the moments–the good and the bad–and knowing that through them all, we’ll still be together.” – Darlene Schacht
- “I feel like I can conquer the world with one hand, when you are holding the other.” – Unknown
- “When I tell you I love you, I don’t say it out of habit, or to make conversation. I say it to remind you that you’re the best thing that ever happened to me.” – Unknown
- “If he makes you laugh, kisses your forehead, says he’s sorry, makes an effort, holds your hand, works hard, attempts to understand you… then believe it or not, he’s quite perfect.” – Unknown
- “Relationships blossom when sacrifice takes the place of selfishness.” – Darlene Schacht
- “I can’t promise you that marriage will be easy, but I can say that marriage, the way God intended it to be, is a treasure worth fighting for.” – Darlene Schacht
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