There’s a Good Chance that Someone Isn’t Going to Like This

Purity isn't something that's reserved for the teens. It's a virtue that we can and must exercise long after we say "I do."

Today we’re onto chapter seven in our book club for The Virtuous Life of a Christ-Centered Wife: 18 Powerful Lessons for Personal Growth. Today’s chapter is on the virtue of purity. More information on the book club is found underneath the post. (View table of contents here.)


Purity isn’t something that’s reserved for our teens. It’s a virtue that we can, and must, exercise long after we say, “I do.”

Simply defined, purity is to be free from anything that contaminates our God-given purpose. A pure wife doesn’t entertain thoughts or activities that draw her away from the Lord or interfere in her marriage.

She may have days where she’s tempted, distracted, or struggles to stay true to her faith, but she looks to Lord to find strength for the journey.

Choosing to follow your sin puts you in a dangerous place where Satan has a foothold in your marriage. If we allow resentment to grow, it will grow, and if we allow our hearts to harden toward the one that we love it will become calloused over time.

Most importantly, the goal of each and every one of us should be that of bringing glory to God both today and every day of our lives.  The Virtuous Life of a Christ-Centered Wife, page 48

As long as we’re in this world Satan is lurking around every corner hoping to draw us away from our faith and destroy our marriage in the process. He’s cunning, which is why scripture warns us to guard our heart with all diligence (Proverbs 4:23). The lust of our heart is deceitful. It makes us think that we need things we don’t. It blinds us from the dangers of temptation and beckons us toward sin.

How do we safe guard our heart? We take our thoughts captive, “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.” – 2 Corinthians 10:5

Looking to that verse we see the word, “imaginations.” I went to the Strong’s concordance for that one because I think it’s important that we look closely at this. Here’s what we find:

Imaginations: logismos – a reckoning, computation. And the root word: logisomai – to reckon, count, compute, calculate, count over.

In English we call this “logic.” Logical arguments are convincing–they make sense in the moment. Anyone who has been tempted to go off a diet will tell you that a logical argument took place in their mind before they fell off the wagon. Too often what we think is logical at the time is detrimental to our plan.

Satan used logic to tempt Eve in the garden; he used logic to tempt Jesus in the wilderness. In fact he used scripture. Taking Jesus to the temple roof he said, “If thou be the Son of God, cast thyself down: for it is written, He shall give his angels charge concerning thee: and in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at any time thou dash thy foot against a stone.” – Matthew 4:6

Without entertaining the thought, Jesus rebuked satan with scripture and sent him away.

Resist the devil and he will flee from you. (James 4:7)

If we hope to live a pure life, have a strong marriage, and walk blameless before the Lord, we need to stand up to temptation. We need a backbone if we hope to live a victorious life.

I’m going to be frank here and in doing so I know that I’m going to touch on a few nerves…

Here’s the reality: If you’re walking in obedience to God there’s a very good chance that someone in your life isn’t going to like it. A man? A friend? A family member?

A reader once told me that faith is more like walking on glass than sitting in a comfy recliner. Ain’t that the truth? Not only do we feel the sting of our choices, our family and friends often will too do.

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. – Hebrews 12:11, NIV

Safeguard your marriage. Safeguard your faith.

You are loved by an almighty God,


Let’s discuss chapter 8 on Friday!

What are some of the thoughts that you have on chapter seven? What are your thoughts on purity? Please leave a comment below! (subscribers click through to the blog)

Find out more about the book here. And yes–feel free to jump in to the book club with us at anytime. If we’re a few chapters ahead of you–that’s okay because you can get to those anytime. We have 18 lessons in total!

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Today’s Challenge:
Keep your thoughts in check this week by asking yourself: is this pleasing to God? If not, then practice changing those thought patterns immediately and flee from those things that are dragging you down.


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Written by Darlene Schacht

I'm an Evangelical Christian whose number one priority is to serve Jesus Christ in every area of my life. My husband Michael and I live in Manitoba Canada. Married 25 years, we have four children (three still at home), a bird and two pugs who are everyone's babies, especially mine! Our lives are basically surrounded with three things: our faith, music and everything books. I’m an award winning and New York Times best-selling author who is nothing without the grace of God. Facebook: timewarpwife Twitter: timewarpwife Pinterest: timewarpwife


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    I wrote a post about Fifty Shades of Gray soon after it came out warning women of the dangers of it. Many women said that it really helped their sex lives. Several years later and I can guarantee you that this book damaged their sexual relationship in the end. Satan makes things look so good and tempting but in the end, those things turn out to be a bag of lies and deception leaving a hand full of broken lives in its path.

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    Purity isn’t just for teenagers. Purity is keeping our mind focused on the Creator. If we lose our focus we lose our minds. I am guilty of allowing what 1 person thinks of me prevent me writing my thoughts publicly. I do have a group I started for this Lenten Season and this one person isn’t in it. God has brought this group together to be an encouragement to each other. There are times where we fail but we are there to lift each other up. Thank you for your challenge today. God bless you.

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    Rebecca Knox says:

    Excellent article, Darlene! And thank you! This really ministered to my heart this evening. I especially like the line, “If you’re walking in obedience to God there’s a very good chance that someone in your life isn’t going to like it.” So true! God bless you…today and always!

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    Jenny Rutan says:

    AWESOME post Darlene…Your post made me stop and think!!! You are so right purity is not just for the younger people, it has to be a part of our lives everyday and in every choice we make (thought, word or deed). Thank you and God bless you!

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    Jan H says:

    I loved the part about “consider my love”. Do I put conditions on my love? That my love tank should be full of the Holy Spirit, overflowing and ready to pour out on others. I know that is true, but many times that “legalistic mindset” parks in my thoughts and I think of justice and not grace.

    Thank you Lord for this reminder of Truth.

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    Angie says:

    I really liked the section of the chapter that gave me 4 things to consider. That is what I wrote in my journal to reflect back on. I have a 15 year old daughter who is asking when she can date. I want to say “never!”. When I held that cute bundle of joy in my arms I didn’t realize what it meant to raise children. It is tough. I pray my children will keep God in their hearts. Thank you for a wonderful chapter.

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