How to Inspire the Best in Your Husband

Inspiration is a curious thing.

It can happen when you least expect it, and stick around with you longer than you ever imagined it would.

I’ve been inspired over the years in a number of ways. Half the time I don’t think the person even realized that they made a lasting impression on me. Perhaps it’s because I didn’t realize it myself until some time later.

Like the time I saw a wreath on my friend’s living room wall. For several years after that I made beautiful wreaths, in fact I still have a few of them hanging around.

Or the time that my sister walked into my parents house looking 10 years younger than she usually did. Her attention to exercise got me thinking. It also got me off of the couch and onto the treadmill.

When you inspire someone, you leave a positive impression on their mind and their soul.

Another definition of inspiration is the process of breathing in or inhaling. (dictionary.com)

I like to look at it this way. When we inspire someone we breath life into them. When we discourage others, we drain them.

Don’t misunderstand, there’s a big difference between trying to change someone and inspiring them to grow.

We weren’t created to mother our husbands (someone’s already been given that role) we were created to be a helpful companion and friend.

When you live with someone for decades your lives are bound to affect each other. Whether you intend to or not you will either inspire each other to grow or discourage one another from trying.

We could just soar through our marriage hoping that we have more good days than bad, or we could be intentional about influencing our husbands in a positive way.

Let’s look at five ways we can do that:

1. Pray for your husband often. The Bible tells us that “the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much” (James 5:16). Prayer is the greatest gift that we can bring to our marriage. Nothing will affect the life of a husband as greatly as a praying wife will.

2. Affirm your husband. Remind him why he’s important, and what it is that you love about him. Words are a powerful force, use them for good.

3. Give him respect. Esteem him as the leader in your home, and let your attitude reflect his importance.

4. Be a close companion and friend. Iron can’t sharpen iron unless it’s in contact. Seize opportunities to spend time together. Be the close friend that he married.

5. Encourage him to grow. Share in his dreams. What things are important to him? How can you nurture those interests? Be his cheerleader.

When I say cheerleader, I’m not talking about a blonde in a short skirt with two pompoms. I’m talking about a woman who stands at the sidelines cheering him on to be the best he can be. I’m talking a woman who believes in him when he doesn’t believe in himself. I’m talking about a woman who inspires him to press on when he’s giving up on his dreams.

I’m talking about the woman that you were created to be.

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. – Genesis 2:18

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You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene Schacht
The Time-Warp Wife

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