When I’m in the zone of self-centered pride, wanting nothing more than than to be right, be seen, be heard, and be first, there are two things that always soften my heart and nudge me in a better direction.
The first one is love.
When you truly love someone you care more for your relationship than you do for your pride. Pride will never hold you close at night, or kiss you on the forehead after a crazy hard day. Pride doesn’t care what’s left of you after it’s gone. It feeds on temporal satisfaction and nothing more. Love on the other hand is lasting. It seeks the best for you. It never fails.
Love is always the best choice, whether it’s easy or not.
The other is God’s Word.
I can’t tell you how thankful I am for parents who brought me to Sunday school. They also brought me to church, sent me to youth group, and opened our house for home Bible studies.
It was there that I studied the Word and memorized scripture. I didn’t realize it at the time, but every single one of the scriptures I learned has helped shape my marriage and the way that I parent my children today.
I love how scripture comes to mind when I’m angry and helps me to make the right choice–humility or pride, which one will I choose?
Satan does his best to meddle in my marriage, but he’ll never stand up against the power of God’s Word.
Last night I was troubled about something that’s been nagging at me. Little by little it made its way into my heart over the course of this week. I couldn’t fall asleep, so I reached out my hand, and gently rubbed Michael’s back.
“What’s up?” he asked.
“I’m kind of sad about something,” I answered.
“What’s on your mind?” he wanted to know.
Unpacking my list, I laid out my thoughts one by one, but there was one vital thought that I kept in mind, “Love doesn’t get angry when others do it wrong.”
Regardless of how he received my thoughts I was determined to handle his heart with patience, kindness and grace, because that’s what love does.
And just like that, he said, “You’re right.”
Holding hands, we talked for a while, coming up with solutions together.
We haven’t always been this way. We used to handle things differently. And unfortunately we didn’t handle each other so carefully.
It took some hard lessons to teach us that love is worth fighting for. And it wasn’t until we almost lost each other that we learned how destructive one’s pride can be. It doesn’t belong in a marriage, and it doesn’t belong in ones heart.
Humility is an avenue to peace, while pride leads to destruction.
One small choice will make a big difference in your marriage–humility or pride. Which one will you choose?
Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall. Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud. He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusteth in the Lord, happy is he. – Proverbs 16:18-20
You are loved by an almighty God,
The Time-Warp Wife
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