It was about ten years ago. I was sitting in the basement with a couple of friends, huddled around our desktop computer. If memory serves me right, they had stopped by to get a little help with setting up their own blog and to taste my borscht. Blogs I knew, but ask me anything else about the computer and I had to call the kids in for help. You know how it goes…
It was around 5:30 pm. That I remember because we had just finished eating dinner together before we went down stairs. Laughing and chatting and clicking away, we kept ourselves busy until something stopped us dead in our tracks.
It was my 12-year old son.
“Thanks for the wonderful meal, Mom!” He hollered down from the kitchen.
Spinning around in her chair, my friend gasped, “What decade are we in?”
And with that we broke out in laughter.
Obviously this was a foreign concept to them, but to us it was an everyday thing.
I remember specifically training my children to thank me after each and every meal. “Bring your dishes to the sink, and thank the person who cooked it.” That was our rule whether they were at home or away.
And not just a simple, “Thanks,” either. I wanted them to pause for a moment and express a little more than one word. I’ll admit it felt silly at times asking someone else to stop and thank me, but it’s my job as their teacher to lead them in truth.
I’m reminded of a mother’s day a few years back when a woman posted on her Facebook page how disappointed she was that her kids didn’t recognize her in a special way. While my heart went out to her, I got to wondering if perhaps they hadn’t been trained to do so. My oldest son (who’s now 23) missed mother’s day one year, and let’s just say he won’t be doing that again. I gently told him that it was important to honor his mother even if it was simply making a card or doing the dishes. Children should honor their parents, but if we don’t teach them, who will? Besides that, if he ever has a mother-in-law, he’ll know to treat her well.
But here’s the thing… We didn’t teach them to be thankful or to bring honor to Michael and I for our benefit. We taught them these lessons because we believe that they are an important step in growing Christ-like.
I got to thinking about this, because I’ve been talking a lot about praying for your marriage, and I’ve realized the importance of giving praise through our prayers.
How we pray for our marriage is something we can all learn from Christ. He’s a wise leader Who has taught us how to honor and glorify our Father in heaven.
He gave us an excellent structure for prayer in Matthew 6:9-13. It’s a good reminder to bring glory and honor to God. In fact if you examine the prayer you’ll see that half of it is about the power, the glory, and the holiness of God and half of it is about our need for forgiveness, protection, and provision:
The Lord’s Prayer
Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
Respect the authority of God. Don’t just go to prayer asking for everything that you want. Also take time to worship the holy and incredible Father He is.
Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
Submit to His will even when it calls you to lay down your pride. Give thanks in all circumstances trusting in His plan for your marriage.
Give us this day our daily bread.
God wants you to bring your requests to Him. Regardless of how small or how big they are. If you have hopes and dreams for your marriage, include God in your plans. Allow Him to shape your dreams.
And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
Make things right with your husband (and others of course). Offer grace. Don’t harbor anger and unforgiveness in your heart. If you’re struggling with this pray about it. God can help you move mountains.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil
This is an important prayer for every couple. There is so much temptation in this world and so many things that threaten to tear couples apart. Pray for inner strength for both you and your husband. Ask for a hedge of protection around you.
For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever
Praise Him with your words. Verbalize your love.
You are loved by an almighty God,
The Time-Warp Wife
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