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It was my husband’s birthday

I still had some wrapping to do when I heard the hum of the garage door open and close. I glanced at the clock. It was only three thirty; the kids weren’t even home from school yet. Michael wasn’t due home for at least another hour, and if you know my husband at all, you’ll understand why this took me by surprise. Michael’s never been late for work, he doesn’t come home early, and he’ll miss a day only if he’s bleeding from the eyes. Whatever the case, I was just glad he was home. This was going to be an awesome night with the family, and I couldn’t wait for it to get started!

Leaving his briefcase by the door, he asked me to join him in the living room. I wasn’t sure what was up, but one glance at the stone-cold look on his face told me that something was wrong—terribly wrong.

Sitting across from him, I’ll never forget the sound of his voice as it rang in my ears and ripped through my heart.

“Are you having an affair?” he asked.

Looking up at him I quickly answered, “No. Why would you even ask that?”

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8 Comments

  • Becca

    What an honor and a blessing to be part of your launch team! Amazing book of redemption and biblical love! You are such a beautiful person and I appreciate you reaching to the depths of your soul to write this book!

  • Jennifer Pelfrey

    Darlene,
    I am so excited to take this challenge. Marriage does have its ups and downs and sometimes I forget to turn to prayer. Thank you for this challenge and fir being so honest about the realities of life and marriage.

  • Laura

    Your story is similar to mine in the mess I created. I got caught, ended it and have re-committed myself to this marriage. It has been 3 years since and still roller coaster of grace, shame, forgiveness, condemnation, trust, negativism. I really need to know if your husband literally accepted you back and hasn’t brought it up again? Doesn’t he have triggers of pain? Remind you of how you lied to him and lived a double life? Confused that if were you lying then, how can he know you aren’t lying now? We are active in our church, in marriage mentoring classes, in the Word daily, pray together…yet he still has these insecurities and nothing I have done so far has helped. Sometimes even the more calm I am, letting him vent, praying quietly, consistent in my walk with God…it just irritates him more. But he refuses to talk about this with anyone else. He wants no one to know the pit he is in. He feels that no one (man) can ever understand this pain and shame. So me, the one that caused the pain, gets reminded nearly every day of it. But..to our church friends we are good and healing and praising God for his wonderful love.

    How did you respond to your husband when he was reminded of the infidelity and lies?

    • Darlene Schacht

      In the beginning he said, “How to I know I can ever trust you again.”

      The truth is that you can’t. We’re all sinners saved by grace. All you have is someone’s word which puts you out on a limb of hope and trust. But there’s also repentance. And without that then words of remorse are useless. If one says that they have changed then they will live a changed life. A changed life has the evidence of good fruit, but still there must be sacrifice of hope and trust.

      He has never ever brought it up again. Ever. It’s gone. It’s forgotten. That has been a vital key of moving forward. It’s a gift I am thankful for every day.

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