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5 Ways to Get Past the Pain of an Argument
This post is about arguments and disagreements that married couples naturally experience. If you are experiencing on-going verbal abuse, I encourage you to speak to a counselor that can help to wisely guide you.______________________________________ You can’t take it back. Have you ever been there? You’ve said too much. You’ve spoken your mind. You’ve laid it all on the table. And now you wish you had just held your tongue, exercised patience, and been more understanding. You’re both left feeling hurt, and so alone in this world. Words are like toothpaste. Once they come out there’s no way that paste is going back in the tube. But this isn’t Crest, it’s…
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10 Things You Won’t Find In A Godly Marriage
Could you stand up in a room and say, without embarrassment, “We’re not perfect but even so, I encourage you to follow our example in marriage?” A godly couple can say this because of what’s missing from their marriage (and because of what’s there, but that’s another article). Sometimes it’s good when certain things go missing. Here are 10 that have no place in a godly relationship: 1. A Sharp Tongue It can be easy to cut with words when things don’t go our way but, in a godly marriage, neither spouse yields to this ungodly impulse. (James 3:8) 2. A Good Memory (when it…
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God’s Instruction for Marriage Includes Intimacy Between a Husband and Wife
We tend to live as if our physical bodies belong to us. For the true follower of Jesus Christ, this is never true. Like the silver in Jean Valjean’s life, a price has been paid for us. Don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost . . . and that you are not your own? You have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. 1 Corinthians 6:19,20. Not being your own is doubly so for those married. According to God, your spouse has access rights to your physical body. Your body isn’t yours because…
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3 Ways to Speak Life to Our Husbands
image source: lightstock.com “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11 Ladies, we like to talk, right? I mean, it’s said that women speak 3 times more than men. This has turned out to be a myth, but the point is it appears that women talk all the time, whereas men tend to be more reserved. Or so the myth says. I had a great grandfather who barely spoke. He would sit at the dinner table and simply stare at the thing he wanted until someone noticed and gave it to him. My great grandmother was so intune to…
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100 Ways to Love Your Husband, 100 Ways to Love Your Wife
100 Ways to Love Your Husband: Available on Amazon now 100 Ways to Love Your Wife: Available on Amazon now So how did you know he was the one? I felt I should have had an answer ready on the tip of my tongue. A thoughtful insight of some kind. But mostly I just remember him walking into the dinner party with his confident stride. Wearing a thick, manly sweater, black Levi’s and western boots. Tall, dark, and handsome. With deep blue eyes. But that doesn’t really explain anything. I mean, no one simply falls in love with a pair of boots…do they? No, it was more than that. Way…
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What Can Happen When You Fall Too Hard for the Stars
I’d always wondered what had happened. After all, he seemed such a good man and so it was a mystery to me. But whatever it was, he didn’t say much now. He merely deferred to her. He explained that his wife was the “spiritual” one in the relationship. Baffled me, really. Her husband seemed solid, wise, with a lot to offer. He sure kept it to himself though. One night we were gathered together with this same couple when our conversation came to center around a book his wife had recently read. An interesting and challenging book by a popular Christian author. As the pastor of one of those…
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Are You Growing Together? 10 Questions to Ask
Great marriages don’t happen by accident, they’re built by two people who give of themselves day after day. Some of the best building blocks in a marriage are patience, love, and respect. But there are so many more. In The Virtuous Life series we talked about valuing others and serving them from a heart of humility. Some days building comes easy and other days it takes down-on-our-knees heart-wrenching prayer as we lift our marriage up to the Lord. But every day is a chance to grow closer together. Two of the most important elements in any marriage are bonding and unity. God didn’t create woman from the dust of the…
