Today we’re on chapter fourteen in our book club for The Virtuous Life of a Christ-Centered Wife: 18 Powerful Lessons for Personal Growth. Today’s chapter is on the virtue of passion. More information on the book club is found underneath the post. (View table of contents here.)
I’m not his sister, nor do I want to be. And so there are days when I pull Michael close and say, “Let’s try that again.”
After 25 years, pecking has become a habit for us. We always say hello, with a warm long-lasting hug, but the kiss? It lost its spark somewhere around the mid 90’s along with the Scrunchie. Before that we used to kiss each other passionately. We kissed like we meant it, and we kissed a lot.
For the most part, the kiss became routine for us like so many other things in our life. Until I took the challenge that is.
The kissing challenge has been around for years. There are books written on it, and people talking about it. Why? Because it works.
There’s a story about a young man who’s been married for seven years. His wife is incredible, his kids are great, and things are going well for them. For the most part his marriage is good, but something is lacking. The passion is gone and he doesn’t know why.
One day he decides to bring up the topic of marriage with his father. If anyone had a great marriage it was his mom and dad. Married over 30 years, his parents still held hands when they walked and still smiled at each other like two teenagers in love.
“Dad, what’s your secret?” he asked. “Why is your marriage so strong when so many others are failing?”
Taking off his watch, he passed it to his son who turned it around to read the inscription. “15 seconds everyday ~ no less.”
“I got this watch from my father,” he said, “and now I’m giving it to you. Kiss her 15 seconds every day. No less. Come back to me in a month and tell me if it doesn’t make a difference.”
Could 15 seconds make a difference? I had to try it out in my laboratory (the kitchen), and my handsome subject just happened to be there.
Approaching him for a kiss, I leaned in. He responded with the usual quick peck on the lips, but just as he started to duck away, I grabbed hold of his waist pulled him in close and whispered, “Let’s try that again, but longer.”
15 seconds was all it took for the passion to wash over me, reminding me of how I fell deeply and passionately in love with him.
Who knew that one little kiss could make such a big difference? Apparently King Solomon did when he wrote these beautiful words in The Song of Solomon,
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for your love is better than wine. – Song of Solomon 1:2
If you want to bring passion back into your marriage, then I encourage you to take this kissing challenge. Kiss each other for about 15 seconds each day. Don’t put on a timer or start counting the seconds, just be in the moment long enough for a lingering passionate kiss that says I’d marry you all over again.
Your are loved by an almighty God,
Let’s discuss chapter 15 on Monday!
Find out more about the book here. And feel free to jump in to the book club with us–you can catch up on the chapters you missed anytime. We have 18 lessons in total!