Hang On A Second. I Gotta Die.

There is no greater love than to lay down your life for a friend.

“[I assure you] by the pride which I have in you in [your fellowship and union with] Christ Jesus our Lord, that I die daily [I face death every day and die to self].” 1 Corinthians 15:31 (AMP)

My 15-year-old son has a fondness for iPod games; ones where a creature has to jump, twist, dodge and dart in an effort to stay alive. Often he plays them on our short commute to school each morning.

As we drive, we go over pick-up instructions. (At the middle school after football practice? Or at the high school if there is optional weight-lifting that day? And what time?)

I also give my “Be sure your sins will find you out” lecture that my own sweet mama often gave me.

The man cub just keeps playing his game, acting as if he’s not listening. But I know he is. Often, when jockeying for position in the parental carpool line, I will inform my boy it’s time to get out of the vehicle. Usually, still engaged in the game he will utter the same phrase to me, “Hang on a second. I gotta die.”

As in, “I’m still finishing this round. I don’t want to power off just yet. Let my character finish this round until it dies. Then I will get out of the car.”

As he uttered it this morning, it spoke to my soul. As a follower of Christ, I am to die to self. But so often, I do not. I elevate self. I promote self. I think little of the other person and much of me.

But before I react … before I hurl a harsh word … before I pass judgment or speak unkindly to my husband or snap at my child, perhaps I need to take a deep breath …

To pause and ponder …

To say in a spiritual sense, “Hang on a second. I gotta die.”

Die to self.

Die to flesh.

Die to my “rights” that often result in my acting wrongly.

Yes, Paul said it best in 1 Corinthians 15:31, “I die daily.”

Does this mean in everything?

So often when we think of Jesus’ admonition that there is no greater love than to lay down your life for a friend, we think of the dramatic ways that might happen. We might jump in front of a car in order to get our friend out of harm’s way. A soldier might willingly give up his life on the battlefield.

But what if it also means that we learn to die to self in the every day details of life? In my interactions with others, especially with my husband? These daily, hourly and even moment-by-moment decisions sometimes seem difficult!

And, if trying in our own strength, they will also be impossible. It is at these junctures that we must draw deep from the power the Holy Spirit offers and let His proper response over-ride our natural and sinful one.

So, the next time we want to react in a way to my spouse that won’t please God, let’s remember my game-lovin’ man cub. And before we speak, let’s take a deep breath; a pause that centers our heart, snaps our soul to attention and gently declares …

Hang on a second. I gotta die.

Karen Ehman
www.karenehman.com

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Written by Karen Ehman

Through her daily blog, writing ventures and many speaking events, Karen’s passion is to provide women with creative inspiration and doable ideas to help them live their priorities and love their lives. She is the Director of the Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker team and is a contributor to Focus on the Family’s magazine Thriving Family. A popular presenter at Hearts at Home moms’ conferences, Karen is also the author of five books including The Complete Guide to Getting and Staying Organized, and  A Life That Says Welcome: Simple Ways to Open Your Heart and Home to Others  She has been a guest on national media shows including The 700 Club, At Home Live, Engaging Women, The Harvest Show, Moody Midday Connection and Focus on the Family. The mother of three, she and her college sweetheart Todd just celebrated their silver anniversary. You can find her blogging at http://www.karenehman.com.

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    This is a timely post for me. I’m dealing with my elderly mother who has broken both hips and had partial replacements in the last five years, and now has a broken pelvis. We have not had the best relationship, and being gracious in the face of her unwillingness to compromise is especially challenging to me. This is a great exhortation. Thanks for sharing. :)

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    Renee says:

    I so desperately needed to read this devotional today. PLEASE, Lord, help me now to absorb it and put it in action in my DAILY life. May I die, so Christ may live within me! Blessings to you and your ministry. CARPE DIEM:)

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    Barbara Cole says:

    Thanks for your message, Karen. Each year I choose one word to focus on throughout the year instead of making a list of resolutions which I most likely would not keep. This year I chose “PAUSE” for the reason you wrote about in this post – I need to pause before reacting or responding in order to allow the Holy Spirit to intervene with a response that will please God while I “die to self.”

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    Elissa P says:

    Beautiful, well said. Oh if only we could all die to self and live in Christ’s word daily, this world would be a wonderful place. Our families would be much happier and we would all live in peace.

    Peace to you.

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    Oh man.

    I shoulda waited and just died a little today! I was utterly human in a way I haven’t been in a while, and in front of other humans, at that! It’s bad enough that my heart wasn’t right, but then to open my big ole mouth and complain to my co-workers? Ugh. And as soon as I said it, I wanted to take it back. I wish I could relive that part of the day.

    It’s a good thing we have a loving, forgiving God… I need that love and forgiveness so very, very much!

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    Carol says:

    So true. I was convicted with the post title.
    I try to ask myself before reacting about something…..”will this matter in a week, a year, 10 years?”, and the answer is generally a resounding NO!

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