Her confession rather surprised me.
She was a bit discouraged about this whole marriage thing. Coming from a daughter of mine, this was rather disconcerting. I mean, we’re certainly big fans of marriage around here, so it caught me off-guard.
She said it’s because she keeps hearing about how marriage is all about hard work. How it’s not about your “happiness”. How you have to give up so much.
And hearing it put this way? It did sound rather bleak, I’ll admit.
She’s got the right idea though. Marriage does take work. It’s not about being happy and you do give of yourself.
But marriage can be rich and beautiful and satisfying too. In fact, I can think of all kinds of reasons to love being married – maybe a thousand or so – but beginning with these 10.
I LOVE….
1. Finding a friend. Who would have guessed I’d find someone to share my heart and soul with? To find someone who would know me better than anyone else? I’m so grateful to have a live-in best friend.
2. Spending the rest of our days together. There’s something exciting – and reassuring – about the thought that the two of us will be together for the rest of our lives. We’re committed to this relationship for the long haul.
3. Sharing our nights. How can I tell her how wonderful it is to reach over and snuggle into his strong body in the middle of the night? To have him hold me tight when I’m anxious or sleepless. To enjoy the pleasures of married life.
4. Growing as a person. It’s true. I’m a better woman because of him. I can get away with more than I should because I’ll put my “best face” on for you. And, besides, you’ll probably graciously overlook my snarky remark, my grumpy response, and my inconsiderate late arrival (thank you for that, by the way!). But my husband will gently hold me accountable. I’m thankful for that kind of love too.
5. Walking by his side. Yes, it’s true. I enjoy being the woman at his side. Maybe it sounds funny, but I still get a thrill when he walks in the room. I’m his chosen lady and I love that honor.
6. Parenting our children together. Our kids are very blessed to have him as their father. I’m glad we get to do this parenting thing together because I rely heavily on his wisdom and direction. I also appreciate his encouragement when I’m feeling down as a mother.
7. Laughing and loving fun. So yeah, we have to work on our relationship. But it’s so much more than hard work. We have a great time together! He can get me laughing until I can hardly breathe. And we still enjoy pillow fights, private jokes, and plenty of wonderful adventures. Kissing is also lots of fun.
8. Bringing in the balance. Because he is strong in areas that I am not – in medical emergencies, for instance. He’s a real champion in a crisis. He also tends to keep clear-headed in emotional turmoil. Me? Less so (enough said). As you see, balance is good.
9. Enjoying the romance. While marriage is more than romance, it doesn’t have to be less than that either. We enjoy going for walks, sitting on the front porch swing, watching an old movie, and heading out for a hot date at Diego’s.
10. Being a light to the world. When out and about, we’ll often get stopped by someone who’ll make a comment about us. Not sure why, since all we’re doing is holding hands, laughing, and talking together? But people are drawn to a loving relationship. So we’ll enjoy the conversation, and from there it’s easy and natural to turn to Christ and the Gospel – the foundation of our love for one another.
So, for that dear daughter of mine, don’t go thinking marriage is only about a bunch of hard work. That it means throwing happiness out the window and giving up your romantic hopes and dreams. There are all kinds of reasons – a thousand or more – to look forward to marriage and a lifetime of loving each other.
So what are some of your reasons for loving marriage? What would you add to this list?
In His grace,
Lisa Jacobson
I needed this. I have been really discouraged with my marriage lately. We have been married almost 4.5 years and have 2 kids (we also lost two early on). So far, the last 4 years have been more miserable than happy for me, more pain than pleasure. When I think about my two best friends that are still single, it’s all I can do to not encourage them to stay single, to say it’s better to just be single, because so far for me that’s how it has been. I think it’s mainly because of #1 here (it is also because of some broken promises but I won’t go into that). He won’t share, he won’t even talk. It’s like pulling teeth. He has never had to talk, he was close to 30 when we married and had never had a relationship, or even a roommate, before we were together. His parents don’t talk at all. Their conversation together doesn’t go beyond the “fact” stage, so he didn’t have much of an example. I am also a “words” person, so that love language isn’t being met. I just feel stuck. I know there has to be more to marriage than this, and I have tried everything, read so many books and blogs and done everything they suggested, but none of it seems to help. I stay at home with the kids, we live in the woods, and I see/talk to no one. I am so lonely that I’ve started criticizing just to start a conversation in an attempt to get that connection. It doesn’t help that I am very extroverted and my husband and ALL of my friends are very introverted. I needed this reminder, to remember the good things, the things that make it worthwhile.
The fact no matter how many flaws I have or how many mistakes I make in life,as a wife,a mother,a daughter,friend,or as a woman I no when I wake up he is there,loving me for me,not giving up on me,teaching me&learning with me!Oh Lord Thank You for Blessing Me With Benjamen Henderson As My Wonderful,Absolutely Perfect In My Eyes,I Couldn’t&Wouldn’t Ask For Anything More or Anyone More Special To Spend The Rest Of My Life With!!!
<3 this!
What if you don’t have all (even half) of those in your marriage?