I heard something in church yesterday that served as a gentle reminder to me.
“I was seeking after the fruit of the Spirit,” she said, “when I realized that seeking God was all that I needed to do.”
Bam! How many times do I need to be reminded of that before it sinks into my heart and stays there? Thank you for being patient with me, Lord…
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” – Matthew 6:33
“All these things” includes the many ways I long to be a good wife and a mother–loving, patient, kind, gentle, and the list goes on…
But too often I’m looking in the wrong place. I see a disorganized laundry room and I wonder how in the world my husband puts up with me. I make basic easy-to-cook dinners that will never measure up to the calibre of other kitchens. I have teenagers who try their hardest to forgo the healthy in lieu of the tasty, and I wonder where I went wrong as their leader. I find myself in the weird part of youtube when I realize I’ve wasted time that I’ll never get back.
I count my short-comings until I come to the place where I’m reminded to rest in His grace.
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. – Matthew 11:28-30
Following His steps, I find three ways I can bless my husband. Three habits that outweigh any shortcomings I have. Three gifts I can bring to my family:
1. To seek God first. When I put God first in my life, I learn to both live well and to love well. It’s only through a relationship with Jesus Christ that the fruit of the Spirit becomes evident in our lives.
2. To pray for my husband and children each day, asking that God would protect them and guide them. Prayer is one of the greatest gifts we can bring to our family. I’ve read comments from exhausted young moms, and I’ve also received some from disabled women who are discouraged because they aren’t the homemaker they always dreamed they would be. I’m quick to remind them of the value of prayer, and how it’s the greatest way one can serve their family.
3. To live righteously. I know that my actions speak louder than words. I also know that I have the potential to influence my family in a powerful way.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. – Proverbs 31:10
You are loved by an almighty God,
The Time-Warp Wife
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