31 Marriage Tips

31 Marriage Tips

We all like marriage tips, right? How about 31 of them? That’s one to keep in mind each day of the month.

Maybe they won’t resonate with you today, but maybe they will tomorrow. That’s the interesting thing about marriage–it goes through seasons. it’s unpredictable.

Perhaps you can hang on to this list and tuck it away someplace for safe keeping. You might even give yourself a little room at the bottom of the page to add your own marriage tips.

Maybe you’ll underline one or two so that you’ll be reminded to put effort into those areas of your marriage.

Before the questions are asked, I want to address a couple of them…

What do I do if I’m the only one putting an effort in? What do I do if my husband isn’t following a list of his own? And… Why are you addressing the women–what about the men? Shouldn’t they have a list too?

My purpose and calling in ministry to encourage women to love their husbands in accordance with God’s Word.

That they [the aged women] may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children. – Titus 2:4

Anyone who has been reading my blog for a while will know that I recommend bloggers like Matthew L. Jacobson who are doing a wonderful job of ministering to men. I pray that by their ministries men will be sharpened and inspired to love their wives and treat them well.

But if they aren’t? Then I’m reminded of two things:

That the fervent prayer of a righteous wife availeth much. 

The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. – James 5:16

And that our actions are a powerful force. 

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives. – 1 Peter 3:1 (NIV)

31 Marriage Tips

  1. Keep God at the center of your marriage
  2. Fight with your husband, not against him
  3. Forgive each other quickly
  4. Carve time out of busy schedules to spend together
  5. Put each other before your pride
  6. Communicate with loving respect
  7. Don’t say things you’ll regret. Ever.
  8. Don’t give up on your marriage
  9. Pray for each other often
  10. Pray together
  11. Don’t measure your spouse by a list of expectations
  12. Give more than you’re given
  13. Trust God for your reward when you endure trials
  14. Cultivate your friendship
  15. Encourage more than you nag
  16. Speak highly of each other
  17. Speak highly to each other
  18. Let go of the past and look forward together
  19. Offer grace to each other
  20. Do little things that say, “I love you.”
  21. Kiss each other often
  22. Don’t ignore your spouses need for physical intimacy
  23. Address problems before they become a serious issue
  24. Stop keeping score of everything, like “who forgave who last…”
  25. Keep unity in mind – put we before me
  26. Let go of your anger and communicate with a cool head
  27. Speak life to each other with words of encouragement
  28. Respect each other with both your words and your actions
  29. Live with an attitude of gratitude
  30. Smile more – stress less
  31. Always say “I love you,” even–and especially if–you’ve had a bad day

You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene Schacht
The Time-Warp Wife

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  • Heather P

    So did you put “Speak highly of each other” in there twice on purpose? 🙂
    Thank you for the reminders!

  • Kelly

    Wow !! All 31 of these points are powerful- I see ones that I really need to work on and put them into practice starting TODAY. Thank you for these marriage bonding and building reminder tips.