Guest Contributor, Lisa Jacobson, Club 31 Women
The beautiful love in Song of Solomon. Nearly makes me blush.
A story of rich, full, tender, and touching love. Very touching. It’s a Biblical kind of marriage and what I want for us. I want to enjoy a deep and passionate love with my husband.
And why not?
He’s all mine and I’m all his. Just like the Bible says.
For I’ve found him whom my soul loves (Song of Solomon 3:4).
50 Ways to Love Him
1. Kiss him on the lips. Every day. For a long time.
2. Slip a love note into his lunch.
3. Snuggle into him. Any chance you get.
4. Dress up. Wear something you feel pretty in.
5. Wrap your arms around his neck.
6. Smile at him with all your heart.
7. Turn up the music and slow down the dance.
8. Wake him in the morning with a kiss.
9. Give him a knowing wink from across the way.
10. Arrange for a sitter. Then go somewhere special.
11. Go to bed early. Together.
12. Listen sympathetically to his day.
13. Hold hands. Whenever you can.
14. Write a message on his bathroom mirror.
15. Laugh at his jokes. No matter how many times you’ve heard them.
16. Run your fingers through his hair.
17. Fix him his favorite foods.
18. Talk late into the night.
19. Reach out and touch him. Often.
20. Send him a text. That would make him smile.
21. Whisper secrets in his ear.
22. Enjoy his company. Just ’cause you like him.
23. Go for a long walk. Arm in arm.
24. Plan special surprises for him.
25. Look for little ways to delight him.
26. Let him know how much you missed him while he was gone.
27. Seek to be together any time you can.
28. Greet him with an adoring smile.
29. Offer him a back rub.
30. Leave no doubt of your devotion.
31. Tell him about the attraction. You feel for him.
32. Let your fingers do the talking.
33. Prepare a picnic. Then head over to the park.
34. Cuddle up on the couch and watch an old movie.
35. Turn the lights down low.
36. Sneak away to a nearby cafe.
37. Walk outside on a clear night. And stare at the stars together.
38. Light up when he enters the room.
39. Brush your lips against his forehead.
40. Bake cookies and deliver them to his work. Personally, if possible.
41. Speak in that sweet tone. Saved just for him.
42. Chase the kids off his lap. To make room for you.
43. Call him up. Just to say, I love you.
44. Sing him a love song.
45. Sit on the porch. And watch the world go by.
46. Lay your head on his strong shoulders.
47. Thank God for him. Every day.
48. Light a small fire. Deep in his heart.
49. Look lovingly into his eyes.
50. Fall asleep in his arms. Whenever possible.
Of course, this is only a start. You’ve probably got lots more ideas to add to this list!
But now to go and find that Man of mine – him whom my soul loves.
And I think I’ll begin with the first one listed…. 🙂
In His grace,
Lisa Jacobson
Lisa is the happily-ever-after wife of Matt Jacobson, literary agent and writer, and together they enjoy raising 8 children. Please join her over at Club31Women, a blog for any wife, mother, or sister who is looking for Biblical encouragement and inspiration.
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I am a bit sick of these posts… even though they are beautiful, I wonder why I never see one as ” 50 ways to show you love her”
I mean, come on… usually we are the romantic ones…
Loving someone doesn’t mean acting cheesy and, for god sake… waking him up just to say you love him? I wouldn’t apreciate that my partner waked me up only for that… I would probably get mad… but I love to hear it without reason during the day
Loving someone is respecting him and being respected. Do not act like if he is more important than you or your life. Show him that you are independent but that you also can have details, bake something if you want don’t go to his job… that makes him look weak (and that’s only the begining)
I know that the writer isn’t a young woman… but please, do not promote girls acting like silly-useless women that only live to clean the house of their husband and raise babies.
Any way, people is free and can act as they want, I respect that. What I don’t respect is when people manipulate young girls to act like their goal has to be marry a good man, being a stay home mum and have 11 children (and I am not saying that this is what the post is trying to do… but it made me though about this)
I am sorry if my post upsets anyone
so negative….
I am not a stay at home mom with three kids. I own my own business and am not a young girl but I have been in a very long marriage with lots of ups and downs and have learned that my husbands appreciates all of these things. I do most of them. I do them because I love him, because I love to be around him. I can’t wait to see him when he gets home. We text sweet things to each other every night.(he works graveyard). He likes me to be there to wake him up with a kiss and when I have to be at the shop he drives up just to give me a kiss before work. We have learned that a happy marriage take alot of work on both sides. This author is only giving one side, but what you obviously don’t understand is that when you show your partner how much they mean to you they start to do those things for you too. They look forward to your little love notes and texts and kisses. It makes them feel special, needed and wanted. Everyone wants to feel that way and if you truly love someone you give them your all and expect nothing in return but something in return is what you get.
Young girls need to know that they shouldn’t be scared to give their whole heart and also to understand that a good relationship needs work, nurturing, and tender loving care. Life is too short to be unhappy. Love someone with all your heart without reservations. Give of yourself and they will give themselves back in return.
This is an amazing post. Virginia you are entitled to your opinion but in my opinion when your married to your best friend all this comes naturally. You want to do all you can to make him happy, to make him smile. To show him every day in any way you can that you love him. If he woke me up to tell me he loves me i would be more than happy, id lean on over kiss him and tell him i love him to. Just because you do stuff like that does not make it cheesy it means your in love. Every day you should be falling more and more in love with your husband or wife and finding new ways should be exciting.
Amazing post! Sorry about negative uncalled for comments by some people.
Virginia, any Google search can easily show you that there are an abundance of posts “50 Ways to Show You Love Her” or “50 Ways to Show You Love Your Wife.”
It could be that you’re not looking in the right place? This is a blog written by a woman for women.
I can’t agree with your statement that says, “Do not act like if he is more important than you or your life.”
The Bible is wise to instruct us in this manner, “Let nothing be done through strife or vain glory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than themselves.” – Philippians 2:3
I believe that true love isn’t self seeking, but the opposite–it’s sacrificial.
And finally I would never refer to women that choose to stay home and have a passion for homemaking as “silly-useless women that only live to clean the house of their husband and raise babies.” That’s not what what the article teaches, and that’s not what you’ll find in this community.
What I have found are women both working and SAHMs who prioritize faith and family, while making sacrifices to do so.
Thank You for the post, it is just so great to think about all the nice ways you can show appreciation for the love of your life. Darlene,, you are great!!! I absolutely agree with everything you said. Virginia, I am sorry you feel that way,,, but I don’t really care,,,, and I find it ironic that you say you don’t want to upset anyone yet it is obvious that that is why you posted that negativeness, just seemed unnecessary. Didn’t you learn when you were little that if you have nothing nice to say than to say nothing at all. I love this post not only because it is a nice reminder than he needs some lovin’ too but that it just makes me smile!! Thank You!
Great post! And this totally works equally well for husbands, for sure.
Aw, this was a very good post. Taking the time and actual effort
to create a really good article… but what can I
say… I procrastinate a lot and don’t seem to get nearly anything done.
I agree with Virginia. Where is the “50 Ways to Show Her Love” passage. Gosh knows men NEED to read that more than we need to read this. Women are normally the more romantic ones in a relationship. And a relationship is about respecting one another, having trust, as well as faith and honesty. I feel there are better ways of showing him love by “falling asleep in his arms” and “baking him cookies” to take to his work…seriously? (who has time for that???) And i would definitely not chase the kids off his lap. In fact, I think a man bonding with his children is the sexiest/most attractive quality any man could ever show. When the kids are in bed then he would be mine to sit with but until then let him be a daddy.
The title should be; “50 ways to annoy your husband!”
…It should all come naturally girls.
Hey there! I’ve been reading your blog for a while now
and finally got the bravery to go ahead and give you a shout
out from Houston Tx! Just wanted to say keep up the good work!
Christian, I hope you comment more often. I love hearing from you and knowing that you are out there. I’m really blessed by this. Thank you!
Any man that would be annoyed by the kind and loving suggestions in the “50” doesn’t deserve the woman who gives of her self to take the action(s). I would be thrilled and tickled if my wife did any of these suggestions! I will adjust them and do them for her and see if life and our love comes back around.
That’s awesome. I love this comment!
Came across this through Pinterest – to keep a really long story short – Lisa, you could have described my husband and myself to a T! And that’s despite the fact we don’t have children but we have plenty of time for each other. Loved reading your post – am sharing this with all my friends!
Ahhh – if only these things did come naturally. What comes naturally is thinking of myself and what I need, being exhausted at the end of a long day and falling asleep on the couch, losing myself in a book and forgetting anybody else is in the room. I’ve been married for almost 32 years and I’m here to tell you, a happy marriage is a lot of work, just like any other relationship. If you’re not working toward making the marriage a priority, it can get pushed to the back burner in the busy-ness of life. So maybe your deal isn’t baking cookies – send your hubby a sweet text to let him know you’re thinking about him. I think the point of the article is to encourage wives to let their husbands know they are important, and to give some ideas of how to get started doing that. And guess what, I imagine most hubbies will reciprocate – it’s a win-win! Thanks for the reminder!
For all the hater’s here, the article is giving suggestions for showing your husband how much you love and appreciate them, not telling you to do the entire list every single day. Wifes know a side of their husbands that they would NEVER show the rest of the world and they are not really that much different when it comes to feelings of love and appreciation as women. Yes, communication,trust and being their for each other is what cements the relationship, but it’s the little things that she described that helps keep the romance alive, which is equally important. So give the woman a break! Geeshhhh!!! This world is driving me crazy with their femma-nazi political correctness!
The article was great. I do alot of these things regularly for my husband and it’s the little things that helps him connect on a deeper emotional and romantic level. Because of abuse when he was younger, it can be a challange for him to express emotions. It was the hard times that made him to learn to trust me and feel secure that I wasn’t going anywhere, and the little things that let’s him know how much I love and appreciate him on a more regular basis and helps him feel free to express himself to me. I think this is a wonderful article, so don’t let the hater’s get you down!