If you’re anything like Michael and I your wedding vows were beautiful. Sometimes I wonder if I was too distracted by the excitement of it all to realize just how wonderful they were. A promise to love, honor, and cherish each other. To laugh with him, to cry with him, and to take his hand in friendship. For better or worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health as long as we both shall live.
Words don’t get much sweeter than those, do they?
But if I could go back… if we could do it all over again… I’d change one thing. I’d add one vow. I’d make a promise that would have changed the course of our marriage.
That promise is this. I solemnly swear to keep you in prayer each and every day of our lives as we surrender our marriage to God.
Prayer is the most powerful force we can bring to our marriage, it’s the greatest gift we can give to our spouse, and it’s by far the best way to stay centered–Christ centered.
The heart of every marriage is unity.
‘And the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.. – Mark 10:8 NIV
It’s important to understand unity and to see the beauty of one flesh. We came from one body that we might again be that one body in a spiritual sense.
Marriage is a life-long process of growing together as one. But in the same way that a wound might be painful at times when a rib is removed, so will it be when the rib has returned.
Although unity is a beautiful thing, it’s not always easy growing together as one. Prayer must be an ever present part of marriage if we hope to grow together as one, or more importantly to grow together in Christ.
We all have days when we feel like we’re pulled in a hundred directions–when we feel the sting of the rib. I can tell you from experience that it’s a lot easier to be selfish than it is to sacrifice for the good of my marriage.
But here’s the thing–God doesn’t call us to walk the easy road, He calls us to take up our cross and follow Him because He knows the joy and peace that comes to those who walk in obedience.
God is more than your ally. The Psalmist refers to Him as, “our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” – Psalm 46:1. Do you know what that says to me? That when we call upon the Lord, He doesn’t simply show up for the rescue. He’s already here.
Prayer is the most powerful force we can bring to our marriage, it’s the greatest gift we can give to our spouse. Don’t let this treasure slip from your grasp.
You are loved by an almighty God,
The Time-Warp Wife
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