If someone tells you motherhood isn’t hard, they’re not telling you the truth.
Wonderful? Yes. Beautiful? Yes. Inspiring? Yes. Hard? Absolutely. But then really, all of life is hard, isn’t it? Messy?
Just the other day, one of my best friends lost her son at the park. Actually, she lost both of her sons at the park. One (the toddler) was running around in the parking lot, and the other was hiding from her in an enclosed slide. Thank God, they were both safe, but she left the park that day a frazzled mess, thoroughly embarrassed and convinced she was getting the worst mother of the year award.
You know, I’ve lost my kids before, too. They’ve acted out in public, run away when I called them, and once… once, they were so terrible in public that I grabbed them both up under my arms and ran out of a building crying. True story.
That’s the reality of motherhood. Or at least it’s the reality of my motherhood. Not every day is like that. In fact, most of our days are pretty good, but there are just enough of “those days” to leave me on my knees. I can’t do it by myself, this mothering thing, so I ask God to help me, lead me, and shape me into the woman he wants me to be so I can partner with him in shaping my kids. If I didn’t, we wouldn’t make it.
And I think that’s the way he wants it.
Our lives weren’t meant to be easy.
I love the song, “Mighty to Save,” by Laura Story. Especially these lyrics:
“So take me as You find me, all my fears and failures, fill my life again. I give my life to follow, everything I believe in, I surrender…”
As I pondered those words one Sunday in church this thought came to me. Jesus gave his life to follow what He believed in, and He says to us, “deny yourself, take up your cross and follow me” (Luke 9:23).
Why should we think what He’s called us to do, how He’s asked us to follow Him, should be any different or easier than what He gave up so that we could follow God?
I’m not sure “easy” was the word Elisabeth Elliott would’ve used to describe living with her children in the midst of the same people who had murdered her husband. I’m certain “easy” wasn’t even in Sussanah Wesley’s vocabulary as she birthed 19 children, lost 9 of them, and raised them mostly alone because of her husband’s absence. “Easy” didn’t roll off the tongue of David Livingstone’s wife as her husband left her and the children alone to go explore Africa in the name of Jesus.
There’s nothing easy about life lived in service to Christ, and motherhood is one big piece of it.
John 16:33 (ESV) says this:
“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”
There is a cost—always a personal sacrifice—involved in wildly and faithfully obeying our callings, and if motherhood is your calling, you should expect no less.
Jesus sacrificed all for us. We must be willing to do the same for him. Including any dreams of motherhood—life—being easy.
Whatever we’re called to—mother, wife, woman, child of God, employee, volunteer, servant—should have an element of difficulty. It should bring us joy because God has called us to do it, but the doing of it may not always bring us joy.
God told us life would be hard, but in the midst of it all he provided a joy that doesn’t depend on circumstances—Himself. If we’re looking to anything other than the deep, abiding love of Christ to bring us joy, we’ll be disappointed.
Motherhood… life… is filled with hard things. Our children will make poor decisions. Our finances will suffer blows. We will lose those we love the most, and it may happen before we’re ready. But the love of God cannot be lost (Romans 8:38-39).
Do You Love Jesus?
I recently had the privilege of hearing Beth Moore speak live for the first time. I’ve done several of her Bible studies over the years, and from them know her to be a powerful Bible teacher. But I’ve never seen her as fired up as I did that day at Liberty University when she looked at 13,000 plus students and asked this question: “Do you love Jesus?”
Not, “do you respect Jesus…”
Not, “do you love to study His word…”
Not, “do you love to worship Jesus…”
But, “do you love Jesus?”
To paraphrase Beth, “Great, deep, overwhelming love for Jesus is the only thing that will carry you through what He requires of you. Loving him will give you the strength to carry out your calling. Respect isn’t enough. Knowledge of his word isn’t enough. Worshipping him isn’t enough. Only love is enough.”
Only love is enough.
Today, I want to encourage you to fall in love with Jesus. That concept may be foreign to some, but why should it stay that way? When we know and understand the depths of his great love for us, it’s only natural that we should return it.
His love for us, plus our love for him, equals the ability to withstand (and even find joy in) anything that comes. Even messy motherhood.
Brooke McGlothlin is co-founder and President of Raising Boys Ministries. She’s a mother of two boys who believes God has chosen her to fight for the hearts of her sons. She can be found most often on her knees in prayer, not because she’s so holy, but because God is. Not because she knows how to raise godly men, but because she believes in the God who loves them more than she does.
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