Ultimate Marriage Challenge

The Ultimate Marriage Vow – Day 4

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Day 4 – To Seek the Will of the Lord


Today’s Scripture

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33, NIV)


Today’s Marriage Vow – To Seek the Will of the Lord

We all want a sense of comfort and care, but the problem is that it’s not always there. So, where does that leave us? What do we do? If our husbands aren’t fulfilling our needs, then who or what is?

Remember the story of the Samaritan woman who came to the well to draw water? It’s found in John Chapter 4. While the disciples were out grocery shopping, Jesus met a woman at the well and asked her for a drink. He knew that this particular woman had a void inside her that led her to thirst for something more in her life. Like many of us, it moved her to return to the same proverbial well time and again hoping to fill that space that only Jesus could fill.

One by one, her five marriages failed. And like so many women today she was empty, discouraged, and searching for more.

Ruth Bell Graham writes, “It is a foolish woman who expects her husband to be to her that which only Jesus Christ Himself can be.”

Do you want more love in your marriage? Do you want joy and peace? Don’t seek the fruit, seek the One from Whom the fruit grows.

A branch doesn’t go looking for fruit. It soaks in the sun and the rain and, thus, fruit springs forth from within. Right here and right now you have the opportunity for a better tomorrow. A chance to step aside and allow God to move in your marriage. But it has to start with seeking Him first.

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Today’s Challenge

Put God first in your marriage. Let every decision you make flow through that funnel of faith.


Appreciate the Little Things

At the close of each day, jot down some appreciation, gratitude, or admiration. For example, you might want to record something that you appreciate about your husband: maybe there’s something you’re grateful for, or perhaps he went out of his way to do something special. Doing this exercise at the end of each day will help you to gain a deeper appreciation of the blessings at hand.


Let’s Not Forget Prayer

The best plan of attack starts with a morning prayer. God helps us formulate a plan, and He helps us to achieve it.

David once wrote, “My voice shalt thou hear in the morning, O LORD; in the morning will I direct my prayer unto thee, and will look up.” (Psalm 5:3, KJV)

David knew what it took to slay a giant. He knew that his wisdom and strength rested on the power of God, and he drew on it daily.

And so I want to remind you to bring your marriage to prayer. Bring your husband to prayer. Bring your home to prayer. And, if you have children bring them to prayer. Lay them down at the feet of our Savior each and every morning asking God to bless and protect them. You won’t find better protection for your marriage, than that which only God can provide!


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Surrender Your Marriage to God…

Too many couples give up. They part ways before they experience the joy of growing together God’s way.

I’ve been there. I’ve smelled the stench of death in my own marriage. We’ve been to rock bottom where all hope was seemingly lost. But that wasn’t the end—something incredible happened when we surrendered our marriage to God. Winter turned to Spring, Spring turned into Summer, and here we are decades later thanking God for His life-saving grace.

And so, I’m asking, will you give me 21 days? That’s all I’m asking you for—3 weeks, 10 minutes a day, and a gentle heart that’s willing to yield. Give me 21 days to show you what God can do for your marriage. 21 days to remind you that marriage is a gift worth fighting for. 21 days to love on and pray for your husband. 21 days to a life filled with love, joy, and peace. 21 days to a life-long commitment.


About the Author

DARLENE SCHACHT is an award-winning and NYT best-selling author. She is the founder of Time-Warp Wife Ministries, an online publication that encourages women to live Christ-centered lives.

Her passion for scripture and hunger for truth is the driving force behind a unique ministry that offers Bible studies and daily marriage prayers. Darlene is joined by her husband Michael on the daily podcast “5-Minute Marriage.”


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