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Day 5 – To Give Up My Need to Be Right
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. (Philippians 2:3-4, NIV)
Today’s Marriage Vow – To Give Up My Need to Be Right
Communication is vital, and a healthy marriage is one where both a husband and wife have the opportunity to convey their thoughts with each other. But, rather than choosing our right to be right, we need to be choosing a path that is right. Marriage isn’t about winning or losing a fight. It’s two people on the same team fighting for love.
The moment we realize that doing right is better than being right, we strengthen our marriage. You might have a point, and you may very well be correct, but hurting someone else to make that point isn’t so cool.
A wife who values her husband higher than herself is willing to let go of her anger, gracefully drop out of a fight, and bring her frustration to prayer. Stepping back (by trying to diffuse an argument with kindness and love) and leaving it in the hands of the Lord, is taking a high road and should never be deemed as “losing a fight.” Grace is undeserved favor. And while it might go unnoticed by your husband it doesn’t go unnoticed by God.
Excerpt from The Ultimate Marriage Vow – Day 5 (affiliate link)
Let your voice be heard, but put down any weapons of warfare. Practice holding your tongue when you’re angry and carrying your burdens to prayer.
Appreciate the Little Things
At the close of each day, jot down some appreciation, gratitude, or admiration. For example, you might want to record something that you appreciate about your husband: maybe there’s something you’re grateful for, or perhaps he went out of his way to do something special. Doing this exercise at the end of each day will help you to gain a deeper appreciation of the blessings at hand.
Let’s Not Forget Prayer
The best plan of attack starts with a morning prayer. God helps us formulate a plan, and He helps us to achieve it.
David once wrote, “My voice shalt thou hear in the morning, O LORD; in the morning will I direct my prayer unto thee, and will look up.” (Psalm 5:3, KJV)
David knew what it took to slay a giant. He knew that his wisdom and strength rested on the power of God, and he drew on it daily.
And so I want to remind you to bring your marriage to prayer. Bring your husband to prayer. Bring your home to prayer. And, if you have children bring them to prayer. Lay them down at the feet of our Savior each and every morning asking God to bless and protect them. You won’t find better protection for your marriage, than that which only God can provide!
The Ultimate Marriage Vow, available at Amazon.com (affiliate link)
Surrender Your Marriage to God…
Too many couples give up. They part ways before they experience the joy of growing together God’s way.
I’ve been there. I’ve smelled the stench of death in my own marriage. We’ve been to rock bottom where all hope was seemingly lost. But that wasn’t the end—something incredible happened when we surrendered our marriage to God. Winter turned to Spring, Spring turned into Summer, and here we are decades later thanking God for His life-saving grace.
And so, I’m asking, will you give me 21 days? That’s all I’m asking you for—3 weeks, 10 minutes a day, and a gentle heart that’s willing to yield. Give me 21 days to show you what God can do for your marriage. 21 days to remind you that marriage is a gift worth fighting for. 21 days to love on and pray for your husband. 21 days to a life filled with love, joy, and peace. 21 days to a life-long commitment.
About the Author
DARLENE SCHACHT is an award-winning and NYT best-selling author. She is the founder of Time-Warp Wife Ministries, an online publication that encourages women to live Christ-centered lives.
Her passion for scripture and hunger for truth is the driving force behind a unique ministry that offers Bible studies and daily marriage prayers. Darlene is joined by her husband Michael on the daily podcast “5-Minute Marriage.”
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