This is week two in our Bible study, “Learning to Love.” This week we’re taking a closer look at the Greek word “Philia” – brotherly love, friendship. If you’d like to join our study, click here to find the free Bible study guide and all of the information you’ll need to join in.
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Q. Do we record our thoughts in the Quieting Your Heart Journal or the study guide?
A. I prefer to keep mine all in one book, so I record everything in my Quieting Your Heart journal. Some people don’t have the journal, so they use the study guide and a separate prayer journal on the side. You can do it either way.
Note: Some of the first copies of the study guide I put out said something like “Philia – Week 4,” but don’t let that confuse you–we are indeed on week 2.
C.S. Lewis writes, “Friendship arises out of mere companionship when two or more of the companions discover that they have in common some insight or interest or even taste which the others do not share and which, till that moment, each believed to be his own unique treasure (or burden). The typical expression of opening friendship would be something like, “What? You too? I thought I was the only one.”
One of the beautiful things about the bond of friendship is that it gives us an opportunity to sharpen each other in love.
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. – Proverbs 27:17
We see this in scripture where Jesus gently corrected Martha (Luke 10:41), and another instance where He sternly corrected Peter (Matthew 16:23).
It’s been said that “people don’t care what you know until they know that you care.” Since friendship is built by two caring people, it gives us that opportunity to grow and to heal as we share each other’s burdens.
One of the most beautiful things two people can do is to study the Bible together. It always warms my heart when I hear about moms getting together to read the Bible or men getting together to pray. Church gives us an opportunity to do this, but friendships within the church even more so.
While we must be friendly to all, it’s important to have close friends that we know will strengthen us spiritually.
A good friend won’t tickle your ear with flattering words. They’ll have your best interest at heart. Good friends will pray with you, they’ll encourage you, and they’ll share truth with you when you need to hear it the most.
Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
If you don’t have outside friendships, don’t lose heart. You’re not alone in this–some have them, and some don’t.
It’s interesting to note that most people treat their friends more politely than they do their own family members. When you’re friendly to someone you give them your full attention. They get eye contact. You’re on your best behavior. You make an effort to be kind, to smile, and to give them your best when you’re with them.
You might put on your best outfit when you go out for lunch. You might laugh at all of their jokes, and treat them with the utmost respect. Manners are in check as well as your tongue.
That’s a good thing, but let’s examine our hearts to ensure that we’re being friendly to our family as well.
Titus 2:4 says, “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.”
Both times the word love appears in that verse, we find a compound word prefixed with philos. (philandros and philoteknos).
What that says to me is that we need to be friendly behind closed doors.
Take the opportunity to cultivate friendships within the relationships you already have. For example, you can be friendly to your mother-in-law, the person next door, your husband, your children, and the people at church.
You are loved by an almighty God,
The Time-Warp Wife
P.S. The printables are a little bit different this week than they were last week. Instead of a list of Bible verses, I wanted to provide you with printable scripture cards. I’ve included the ones we had last week, so you can have a complete set.
I also decided to bring back the “Week-at-a-Glance” sheet, which you’ll find below.
Click here to download and print this week’s questions.
These questions can be used for group study or for self reflection
Week at a Glance
Click here to download this week at a glance.
This can be printed out, and kept in your Bible for quick reference during the week.
Love Collection Scripture Cards:
These printable scripture cards can be kept close through the week.
They give us a love related verse to meditate on throughout the day.
Come back next Monday for 7 more cards and the following Monday to complete the set of 28 cards.
Coloring pages are good for relaxation. I hope you enjoy this one!
Come back this Friday for another coloring page