• She’s Always a Woman

    Age 31 arrived and with it, the cold fingers of early winter tightened their slow, numbing grip on the last week of October in Portland, Oregon. Happy Birthday, but not really. Winter is colder when you’re alone and don’t want to be. “It is not good for a man to be alone.” Yeah, God, I know. So, where is she, because I’ve searched for her in every room, at every church service, through every crowd, down every busy street? I’m not a huge Bruce Springsteen fan but with 32 staring me in the face, I felt the vibe of his song, Dancing in the Dark, down in my bones. Even…

  • Why Romance is Dangerous Business . . . for Husbands

    Does your husband write love poems to you that start like this? She walks in beauty, like the night   Of cloudless climes and starry skies; And all that’s best of dark and bright   Meet in her aspect and her eyes; No? Neither does Lisa’s! Not that I haven’t tried, but the effort often feels like I’m sitting in a cave wearing animal skins, and grunting while earnestly striking two rocks together, hoping for a spark. Many husbands feel like cavemen when it comes to romance – even the husbands who are attentive to these things. Just glance at the expression of the guy packing a bouquet of flowers…