The Best Thing a Wife Can Do For Her Husband

The Best Thing a Wife Can Do

 Drawn from my archives
The woman who makes a sweet, beautiful home, filling it with love and prayer and purity, is doing something better than anything else her hands could find to do beneath the skies. ― J.R. Miller
While my son is getting some work done to his apartment, he asked if we could watch his bird Abby for a few days. Without hesitation I said yes. I absolutely love this little little Green Cheek Conure and she loves me. One of my favorite things that she does is run up my arm and kiss my cheek. She even does the little kissy noise that goes with it. And when she’s not on my arm, she’s often saying, “Give me a kiss,” from her cage. How cute is that?!

What’s not so cute is that Conures have a tendency to bite. She loves to nest in my hair, but the minute she gets a little agitated, she bites the back of my neck, and let me tell you, it hurts!

Because of her tendency to bite, Brendan is the only other person in our family who will hold her. The kids would sooner run from the room screaming than take the chance of getting nipped.

Looking at Abby the other day I was reminded of myself. Hormones have a funny way of bringing out the Jekyll and Hyde in a woman every twenty eight days or so. There have been days when I’m saying, “Give me a kiss,” to my husband one minute and chewing his head off the next. But month after month–year after year, he has loved me through the good times and the bad.

Whether I was nestled up against his cheek or flying out the door, he has patiently stood by me year after year.

While I’m praising God for that gift of love, I seek to offer my own. Not just for the sake of my husband, but ultimately for the sake of my Lord. Therefore my love must be based on the wisdom of God’s Word, rather than my own passion, desires, or wants.

As we continue to work our way through the marriage challenge, I want to encourage you to love the way that God intended–according to His wisdom as outlined in scripture. Because really, that’s the best thing we can do for our husbands. 

In other words, let’s love with patience, understanding and grace on both the good days and bad. Let’s stand up to the challenge of loving well when we’re frustrated, walking in truth when we’re angry, and clinging to God instead of our pride.

But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure;
then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy
and good fruit, impartial and sincere.
~ James 3:17, NIV

You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene Schacht
The Time-Warp Wife


This post contains an Amazon affiliate link. Please read my full disclosure. 


  • Lori Alexander

    I love this! Our feelings are real but we must try very hard to not let them dictate our behavior. It is a wise woman who can judge quickly to make sure her feelings line up with the Truth of Scripture or not. If they don’t line up with patience, understanding and grace, we need to renew our minds and feelings with God’s Truth.

  • Summer

    Love the post! It allowed me to step back, look at myself and my behaviors then readjust as necessary. Thanks for the bird comparison. That was good!

  • S. Rogers

    As a wife of 38 years, having survived the ups and downs of seeking after these very things, I would emphasize, make sure it is the MOM’s prayers and purity….It is all too easy to “try” to have these things in your home and fall into more “effort to make it happen” resulting in flesh and control issues, than simply being an “example” of prayer and purity. I cannot emphasize enough the difference and danger of trying to make even good and holy things happen…think the difference in Sarah when through her faith she experienced the Lord’s protection in the harem, vs. her effort to “make” God’s blessing happen when God took a long time to fulfill the promised miracle child.