Bible Study, “Learning to Love” Week 1 – Part 2

Love isn't selfish

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We’ve been reading about Storge love this week, which is defined as “natural affection.” It’s a gentle feeling, like a warm blanket on a cold winters night. Unlike eros which can strike you like lightening, it comes to you slowly and and ever so softly.

It’s a feeling that bonds one heart to another. It’s communicated through kindness, and often expressed with a hug and a kiss. It’s holding hands with your child as you walk through the park, it’s a kiss on the forehead after a long day at work, it’s the warmth of a trusted companion and friend. Storge love is familiar, it’s comforting, it’s homespun.

The reason that I wanted to study this one first is because affection is woven through every love we experience. Whether we’re talking about friendship, romantic love, or agape love, we’re usually affectionate with the people we care for.

As I was reading this week about Moses’ mother, the two women brought before King Solomon, and the relationship between Naomi and Ruth I discovered two things:

  1. Love goes hand in hand with sacrifice
  2. Releasing our grip on people (and things) is an important part of loving them, and loving God well.

My kids are grown up (two are adults now) and letting go is a very tough part of parenting. With aging parents, I’ve had to learn to let go of my dad when he passed on. I’ve had to let go of pets I’ve loved dearly. I’ve said goodbye to friends who moved on… I’ve wanted to hold on tight, but I’ve had to let go.

I remember when I was a young child. I had a baby doll named Pee-Wee. I loved that little doll with the curly blonde hair more than you can imagine. I remember bathing her in the afternoons at the bathroom sink with a bar of soap, and then wrapping her in a tea towel to keep her warm as I rocked her to sleep. I ironed her clothes, combed her blonde hair, and fell asleep with her in my arms every night.

We were inseparable–until my niece came along.

Mom said that I should give Pee-Wee away. “You’re getting old,” she said, “maybe you should give the doll to Sharleen.”

Against better judgement, I packed up my doll along with her tea-towel blanket and handed her off to the next generation.

The next Saturday we went over to visit. I couldn’t wait to see Pee-Wee.

I thought maybe they’d change their minds and send her back home with me. I thought perhaps I could figure out a way to smuggle her out of the house… but that didn’t happen. In fact what happened next was horrific.

I walked in the backyard and found part of her face in the freshly cut grass. She was torn to shreds by a lawn mower and scattered in pieces across the backyard.

I learned a lesson that day. Love comes softly, but when it’s time to let go it cuts deep. It rips your heart into a million pieces and you wonder if you’ll ever be the same again.

And I wasn’t the same. I was stronger. I’ve opened my heart over the years to countless friends and family, puppies, teachers, a bird…

Storge has always been a part of my life and always will be. Our love tanks don’t empty because someone walks out or passes away. God continues to bring that familiar affection into our lives time and again.

Our parents pass on, children are born… our children move out, grandkids come back to visit… friends move on, new friends step in…

Don’t get me wrong, we can’t replace the people we’ve lost, but we can love again, and with God’s strength we can move on.

We must learn to let go when God calls us to it. It’s never easy, but it’s a part of loving them, and loving Him well.

You ave loved by an almighty God,

Darlene Schacht
The Time-Warp Wife

P.S. Come back on Monday, and I’ll some new study questions for you, Bible verses for the week, and yet another colouring page.


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  • Kezia

    Wonderfully written. Unfortunately, it also made me cry. I was familiar with the other concepts of love but had never heard of this aspect. It really touches home.

  • casey toney

    yes…love requires sacrifice…my exact thoughts after having done my reading and contemplating Ruth. Am enjoying this study immensely. Thank you.

  • Jennifer

    Today’s lesson was especially meant for me. I lost my mom over a year ago and I’ve had to put my dad in a nursing home facility. My husband and I had to move to another state and change churches. My heart is still at my previous church. All my friends are there and I miss my life there. Although, I’m trying to start over, it’s hard at 50 to do so. I want to follow God and do His will but my love for these people is so strong and I don’t want to let go.

  • Lynnette

    God’s love is the forever kind. I thank God for His Love and for helping and teaching me love to share.

  • Vanessa

    Hello from Newfoundland! My friends and I are following the study and your blog posts and are planning to meet each week to discuss these fantastic biblical examples of love! With most of us having young children, this first week’s discussion of mothers and family love was very appropriate for where we are in our lives. I want to thank you so very much for providing us with these tools to direct our discussion and inspire our hearts to draw closer to our Father and His love for us.

  • Shawn

    Thank you for your wisdom and experiences that you share so gracefully! You are a true inspiration for us to follow in Christ’s footsteps.

  • Lane

    What a beautiful gift you have, Darlene. I am enjoying and getting blessed more and more each time I read what you have to share. It comes from your heart…that is easy to read. Thank you, Lane