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5 Ways to Get Past the Pain of an Argument
This post is about arguments and disagreements that married couples naturally experience. If you are experiencing on-going verbal abuse, I encourage you to speak to a counselor that can help to wisely guide you.______________________________________ You can’t take it back. Have you ever been there? You’ve said too much. You’ve spoken your mind. You’ve laid it all on the table. And now you wish you had just held your tongue, exercised patience, and been more understanding. You’re both left feeling hurt, and so alone in this world. Words are like toothpaste. Once they come out there’s no way that paste is going back in the tube. But this isn’t Crest, it’s…
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We Kissed Fighting Goodbye
Living near the Oregon Coast, sooner or later you’re going to see it – two seagulls fighting over a dead fish. It’s a lot of squawking, biting, flapping, snapping, and tugging. But as soon as you get near, they take wing and float peacefully on the breeze as if nothing happened. If you hadn’t seen it, you’d never guess that two seconds earlier they were trying to peck out each other’s eyes. It’s a scene too common in Christian marriage. It reminds me of the old couple my friend and I rented a flat from while in college. She dazzled everyone with her singing voice and extensive women’s ministry, and he…
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What I Finally Learned About Love and War
Ruth Bell Graham once said, “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” This gives us a glimpse into one of the strongest marriages of our time. Married over sixty years, Ruth and Billy Graham understood that anger is inevitable–it comes easy–but forgiveness comes with sacrifice. One of the first fights I ever had with Michael came three years into our marriage. Can you believe that? Three years! I was pregnant with our first child, and my emotions were running wild on me. I remember sitting in the baby’s room folding little undershirts while tears streamed down my cheeks. The slam of the apartment door told me he…
